Free the nipple - a response

A day or so ago I  posted a video on FB about the free the nipple movement. Below is a comment I received and my response.

Ok.... I want to point out a couple things here. 

A. We do NOT urinate from our vaginal but through our urethra.

B. The vagina is only the opening and canal that leads to the cervix and then to the uterus.

C. The rest of that area consists of labia majora, labia minora, clitoris, and mons pubis. 

Now that we have gotten the anatomy lesson out of the way. The female genitals are not inherently sexual. Yes they are sex organs, however the sexualization of said organs is the creation of society and people in general. The uterus and vagina were designed to bear children, not to be sexualized in the way the have been. The ass is simply the exit  through which we expel bodily waste, again sexualized by society.

Is not an excuse to get naked its about having the same freedom as men to be as exposed or covered as we want to be.

Modest.

The more I say the word modest the more foreign it sounds in my brain. This word had been a part of my life during childhood, my mother always telling me I needed to be more modest and cover up my body. Hide. Then in the same breath she would berate me for wearing baggy clothes and not taking pride in my appearance. 

As a teen I moved away from baggy clothes and embraced crop tops, tight jeans short skirts  and doing anything I could to show off my body and create the illusion of having cleavage (I had nothing in the boob department till I was in my 20s). 

When I started covering my hair about a year ago I also started exploring a more modest style of dress and trying to find a way to dress modestly and still look and feel sexy. I rebelled against my own desire to cover up and did a swing back to my teen years, but now having 2 men in my life who seem to appreciate my modest inclinations and covered hair I am actually starting to feel sexy even when I wear a long sleeved shell, tank and floor length skirt. I had stopped covering my hair over the summer, and really felt like something was missing.  

This was weird to me since covering had been new for me to begin with but this feeling of something missing tells me I am on the right path. I am slowing weeding out my closet and getting rid of a lot of clothes that I just don't feel comfortable in anymore. While modesty seems to usually be a religious concept I struggle finding any community as my desire to dress in a modest fashion isn't influenced by faith. I am still not sure where this journey will take me but I am enjoying the ride.

THIS

Slut Shaming

I keep seeing the apple tree metaphor use to shame girls, and while the above example isn't directly sex shaming it is in act still shaming. This says that some girls are rotten/bad/not good enough for what ever reason. John Oliver brought up the apple tree thing a few weeks back on "Last Week Tonight" while he was talking about sex ed in this country and I just find it to be rage inducing. 

It also says that the girls who wait are superior to girls who don't wait, and also that its ok for boys to pick through the "bad apples" to get to the good ones but girls are to wait around to be picked. 

I hate this shit... Why is it ok for boys? 

Why do girls get told that if they are sexually active or even dating around that they are "rotten" or "bad"?

Boys don't get compared to fruit that is going to rot if its touch. 

Boys are studs, boys are virile, boys are just being boys...

but girls are sluts, whores, sullied, rotten, bad, dirty.

I know this is not a new subject or even news. But this pisses me off. Women are equal to men. We need to end this shit. We need our daughters/ sisters/ mothers etc to know that we are equal. To know that we are not sullied because we enjoy sex, because we enjoy our bodies, because we are friends with boys. We are allowed.

LET ME REPEAT MYSELF.

WE. ARE. ALLOWED. 

Women are allowed to be sexual, social, out going, we are allowed to say NO, we are allowed to be free to talk to boys. We are free to tell someone that we would rather just be friends. We do not own anyone but ourselves. 

Represent

I am not in a polyamorous relationship,  but I am polyamorous.
I am not in a (sexual) relationship with a woman but I am bisexual.
I do not go to a specific church,  but I am spiritual and have faith.
I am still something.
I am still part of a community.
I still deserve representation.